a question…do you have an answer?

Can somebody tell me if I’m just thinking paranoid? Or if I hit something on the nail? I have this friend of mine, who works on campus with me. My boyfriend, my friend, and I like to go out to lunch. However, most of the time, if I am caught in a bind at work – that requires me to leave at a certain time, or even be back by a certain time – my friend isn’t very flexible with this.

• One time, my friend wanted to do lunch at 12:00 – I couldn’t get out of a meeting till 12:30 – so he went ahead and scheduled the lunch for us at 12:00. (what’s the point in asking me what time I can go – when he’s going to schedule regardless of that availablity?)
• Another time, he was driving and I was sore from hankido. He wanted me to meet him at his parking spot – about a good 10 blocks away from work. I decided to bow out – since I was too sore to walk. On that same day, he also asked my boyfriend to lunch and he offered to pick my boyfriend up from work.
• Finally, today – I had time for lunch, but I didn’t want to waste time driving – another busy day. I thought it would be alright if we could stay within walking distance. But he insisted on driving. I had bow out again.

So here’s my thing – for some reason, it feels like my boyfriend gets more flexiblity than me, when my friend plans these lunch outings. In the beginning I just wrote them off – because I didn’t want to inconvience anybody. But, I can’t account for the disparity in how my boyfriend is accomodated – and me and my schedule…are not. So, by these descriptions – do you think I’m paranoid in thinking this way? Or is my friend really not taking me into consideration – for these lunch-time outings? Hell….I know we’re suppose to all hang out on Friday….but now I’m having second thoughts….I don’t feel really comfortable talking about this with my friend because well, I don’t want to sound petty and little.

sorry, i thought it wasn’t a big deal – but I can’t help thinking about it all day. it’s actually put me in a pretty moody mood and that makes me sad – because, well he’s my friend.

here’s one response from my ediets buddy:
” I think you’re friend is being sorta self-centered and rude, especially because you have a set schedule and work meetings you have to go by and he seems to be flexible..what’s up with that? What does your boyfriend think of it, does he notice? Maybe you guys could work together on your weirdly-nonflexible friend for the next set of lunch plans?”